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Exercises for Emotional Connection


Looks of Love


So through the eyes love attains the heart:
For the eyes are the scouts of the heart,
And the eyes go reconnoitering
For what it would please the heart to possess.
Guiraut de Borneilh, Poet

Hours, days, or even weeks might pass by without couples really looking at one another. The brief, but powerful, practice of conscious eye gazing forges unequivocal bonds. Eyes are gateways for love. Through real and true eye contact you share your soul. 


Time Required: Only 2 minutes!

For 1 minute (60 seconds) the woman sends her partner looks of love. Making full eye contact she allows all the tenderness, passion, and affection she feels for her mate to pass through her eyes and into his. No words are spoken, no sounds intrude, only love is passed from eye to eye and soul to soul. He allows himself to receive her love, to let it suffuse him and envelope him without question, without doubt or fear.

After 1 minute the woman lightly squeezes her partner’s hand to let him know it’s his turn.

Then he sends his love to her in the same manner—freely given, freely received.

When this second minute has passed he squeezes her hand. Both then say “thank you” aloud.

 Looks of Love

Some pointers to help you with Looks of Love:

This is a very powerful connecting exercise. You may find it a little uncomfortable, even overwhelming at first. You might laugh or want to look away quickly. Persevere, your nervousness will pass as your hearts open more and more to each other.

Don’t worry about counting out exactly 1 minute. Simply carry on with your loving look for as long as you comfortably can. At first 1 minute may seem a very long time, but as you progress through your Tantric practice, that will change.



Excerpted from 28 Days to Ecstasy for Couples: Tantra Step By Step

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